June 9, 2023

5 Tips for Choosing a Wedding Party without Offending Anyone 

When it comes to wedding planning, one of the most important decisions you’ll have to make is who you will select for your wedding party—these are the people who will stand by you on your special day. However, it can be difficult to take this big step without offending someone. 

Here are five tips for choosing your bridesmaids or groomsmen without causing any hurt feelings:

1. Timing Matters

Choosing your wedding party should be one of the first decisions you make during the planning process. That way, there is sufficient time for bridesmaids and groomsmen to prepare and become involved in any pre-wedding activities:

• Bachelorette/bachelor parties
• Bridal showers
• Dress fittings
• Rehearsal dinner

Once your people are chosen, you’ll be able to plan all of these with ease!

2. Consider the Size of the Gathering

When narrowing down your guest list, consider how many people you will be able to accommodate. Here are some pointers to help:

• Intimate Wedding: The typical size for an intimate wedding is about 25-50 guests. For this type of gathering, you may only want to have family and very close friends at the party. In this case, you might choose a maid of honor and best man but forgo a full wedding party. 
• Big Wedding: If you’re having a bigger wedding (more than 150 guests), then you may consider adding more people to your wedding party, like 10-12 instead of the average 4 bridesmaids.

Knowing the size of the ceremony can be a gentle excuse for not including someone as a bridesmaid or groomsmen while finding them an alternate responsibility.  

3. Consider Adding More Roles

If there are more people in your life that you want to include in the celebration but do not have enough spots for them, consider creating other roles! Cousins and friends who aren’t in the wedding party might be happy to be greeters, ushers, or ceremony readers. 

You could even ask a few friends to be the designated party people, hyping up the crowd and pulling people out of their chairs and onto the dance floor. A lot of people won’t have an opinion, but if you know someone will be disappointed by your decision, find a way to make them feel included.

4. Group Dynamics

Make sure to consider the group dynamics when selecting your wedding party. Will this person cause any contention between you or your significant other? Will they cause any issues between the bridesmaids and groomsmen? 

We’ve all heard the wedding horror stories of bridesmaids arguing or refusing to participate. To avoid any drama, make sure you don’t feel pressured to choose wedding party members who will cause contention. 

5. Reliability

There’s nothing worse than an unreliable bridesmaid! When deciding on who will be a part of your wedding, make sure that the friends and family you choose are reliable and will be there for you, ready to lend a hand. The key to your dream wedding lies in who is supporting you on your special day—you’ve already nailed down the soulmate; now it’s time to solidify the perfect bridesmaids and groomsmen.

Remember to trust your instincts. No matter whom you choose, it’s important to remember to be respectful and gracious. Choosing the people who will stand beside you is a big decision, but it doesn’t have to be a stressful one. With these tips in mind, you can pick the perfect people for the job!

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